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______________________________________When I was about seven months pregnant with our second child, Kyle and I were told that our baby had anencephaly. We were told our baby's condition was not compatible with life and that he would die in the womb, during birth or shortly after deliver.
I carried Samuel for 42 weeks. He was delivered by a cesarean section on July 1st, 1992. We chose to have a c-section to give him the best chance of surviving the birth (he wasn't doing well during the contractions). We hoped we'd have some time to get to know our son.
Although we had accepted the fact that God had made Samuel different and we rejoiced in his creation of our baby boy, we hoped right up until the end that God might heal our baby. That didn't happen.
Before I had Samuel, my greatest fear was ... fear. I was afraid - period. I was afraid of how I'd react when I saw my baby. I was afraid I wouldn't feel a bond with my baby who would look so different from a healthy child. I was afraid of the whole situation. But as soon as I saw Samuel, I fell in love - a deep, tender, motherly love. I should never have feared a situation that God placed me in. How can a mommy not love and adore her child. We were bonded at the heart, nothing else mattered. I just wanted the doctor to get me stitched up and back to the room so I could spend time with my son - precious time that I would cherish.
Samuel didn't die in the womb or during birth or shortly after birth. God allowed us to spend 13 days with our son. Those days were stressful and heartbreaking, but they were precious. We even took Samuel to church one Sunday morning.
I was able to nurse him a few times and that was such an amazing blessing. I didn't think I'd get that with him. However, he had a very weak sucking reflex and it only lasted a few days (we were told he wouldn't have one at all) so he lost weight rapidly.
Samuel slept in our crib and our bassinet - the same crib and bassinet that had held Jared and has since held, Abigail, Cecily, Anna, Silas and Jonas. He cuddled up in my arms, his daddy's arms and the arms of his grandma's and grandpa's, aunts, uncles and friends. Samuel was greatly loved and touched many hearts throughout that time.
It's been a long time since Samuel was in my arms, and I had him for such a little time. I don't really remember what he felt like anymore. I've forgotten his fragrance. I never got to know his voice, his likes and dislikes. I could feel cheated (and perhaps did for a time back then), but one thing I do know is that I will be with my son again. He didn't exist and then just disappear. I gave birth to a soul and that soul lives on in heaven. My heart doesn't hurt anymore, but it will always long for Samuel. He owns a piece of it.
My daughter Anna, who never met Samuel on earth (and mentioned many times how much she looked forward to meeting them), now knows him better than I ever did. It comforts my heart to know that my children - brothers and sister - are living together in heaven with their Creator. I look forward to the day that they greet me at the gate. I look forward to hearing stories of their time together.
Samuel would be 17 years old today. He and Jared would have been less than 2 years apart. He and Abigail only 11 months apart. He would have been one of FIVE teenagers! I can't believe that if all my children were here, I'd now have that many teenagers under one roof! Yes, I wish Samuel was here...but he's not.
No, Samuel's only in HEAVEN! He's enjoying "pleasures evermore". He'll never turn his back on God. He'll never sin. He'll never have to feel pain, sadness or fear. To have God take your life from earth before you even have a chance to grow up - while seemingly unfair - is actually a beautiful thing. I'm so glad that Samuel doesn't ever have to experience the sorrow of loss. He was spared. He is blessed. Blessed to be without his momma and daddy? Blessed to be without some of his brothers and sisters?
Samuel will have those opportunities. He didn't lose anything when he left this earth. He only gained. He gained all the things that I look so forward to gaining. He didn't lose us - he just has to wait until it's our turn to live there, and in the meantime, I'm sure he's enjoying every moment. Time flies when you're having fun!
I'm comforted as I remember the eternal perspective of time - "life is but a vapor". Right now it may feel like forever until I see my precious child again, but even if I live to the ripe old age of 100! life
is still a vapour compared to eternity.
I wish I had beautiful pictures to post here, but sadly, I didn't have a good camera back then, and my pictures are far away and low quality. So, I'll share the only picture I have to share - the same one you've seen many times before - but maybe you'll see it in a new light today - on Samuel's "would be" 17th birthday.
Happy birthday Samuel. Momma loves you.
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